The journey of infertility is daunting. It comes when we least expect, knocks on our door and says, “I’m here to stay”. It brings with it a rollercoaster of emotions, uncertainty, loss and pain. It triggers the process of grief, of trying to cope with the loss of a child that we never had to begin with.
As an individual, having gone through this process myself and as a professional fertility coach having supported others going through similar circumstances, I noticed how the stages of grief aren’t linear. Instead of going through the initial shock and denial, anger, depression, dialogue/bargaining and finally acceptance, people often find themselves stuck in the middle, going back and forth through denial and confusion, frustration, anxiety, anger, shame, helplessness. People question their identity, their femininity/virility, their role in a relationship, family and society. People question their goals and the meaning of their life.
Logotherapy has helped me and others facing involuntary childlessness find answers to those existential questions.
Logotherapy is based on the concept that people are motivated by meaning in their lives. By helping people find meaning in their lives, they can move forward in the process of grief and live a fulfilling life.
Logotherapy explains you can discover meaning in life in three different ways:
There are 3 basic reasons why logotherapy is essential in your fertility journey.
By moving forward in the process of grief, you are choosing to let go of negative feelings. You are also replacing them with meaning, self-esteem, security and empowerment. This positive mindset allows you to notice options that you couldn’t notice when you had all those negative feelings. The new options you notice might inspire you to create a new fertility plan. Stress is known to impair fertility so accepting and being positive will also increase your chances of being successful in your new fertility plan.
Fertility NLP Coach and Nurse Specialist