Going through infertility presents many challenges, so support is crucial to help us feel balanced and able to cope with whatever happens. But what do we mean by support?
Support can come in many ways.
Because so many people around us – family, friends, co-workers – haven’t been through infertility, we usually have the feeling they don’t understand what it’s really like. Whether you decide to be open about your journey or not, the most important thing is to get the support you need, in your own terms. You don’t need to share all details with everyone. Do whatever feels right for you. If there is one person you feel will be understanding, go for it!
An alternative to family and friends support is social media. Here you will find a lot of people who have indeed been through similar problems and who do understand what you are going through. You can even create an imaginary name for this account, and no one will know who you really are, unless you want to. This community can be found on Instagram or closed Facebook groups and they are always there 24/7, ready to listen when you need to vent or when you have a question about some aspect of this journey.
Free webinars are also available in all these platforms, as a way of listening to others live, interact, learn and get support.
Look for the following communities: Fertility Network UK, Egg Donation Friends, IVF Babble, The Fertility Podcast, BFN Podcast, Fertility Fest amongst others. There is something for every taste and need!
Attending a fertility event or meet up is the next step forward which allows you to interact face to face with others in similar journeys. A lot of these events and meet ups are free or low cost, allowing you to talk about infertility in more natural environments like a coffee shop or over lunch. It can be very helpful to meet others face to face, it will make you feel less alone and maybe new friendships will flourish!
Even though it’s great to talk and vent with others who are going through similar challenges, it is often not enough. Getting professional support from a fertility coach or counsellor can help you with managing emotions, making difficult decision, communicating with partner or significant others etc.
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Andreia Trigo RN BSc MSc
Andreia Trigo is a multi awarded fertility nurse consultant and coach, founder of inFertile Life, author and speaker. She has combined her medical experience with her personal experience of infertility and is passionate about helping others in similar journeys. Check out the Enhanced Fertility Programme to get 1 year of support!